Tuesday, September 4, 2012
I am basically writing this in general, not involving or to relate any of my personal problems, or any specific person I know. But speaking of which, it is not a rare thing for couples to sooner or later, run into a few bumps in the road. And from there, we can recognize the problems and eventually get a better chance of weathering the storm.
Trust. Honest. Loyal.
The idea of writing this post came by when I was shisha-ing with a close friend of mine, and we started to talk about "trust". And at one point I started to question myself; how does a couple ended up to have a trust issues? How does it get started ? A third person ? An affair ? Lack of communications ? Distance? Mistrust interfering with primary relationship ? Well, you tell me.
The point of being in a relationship is by loving each other, show support and willing to sacrifice to achieve whatever have been written in the so called "all-the-promises-to-be-with-you-till-the-end-of-time-mini-book". But, having a trust issues, would likely cause many problems.
A relationship that has the best chance to withstand all the tests of time is the one that is build on a solid foundation that consists of love, respect and trust. However, the crisis in confidence and trust have lead to betrayal.
A love triangle. How does it get started ? I pun tak faham. Maybe certain situation like "attention-issues"?
Girls love attention. They do the hair for the boyfriend to notice, do the make up for the boyfriend to feel "no-one-can-ever-compete-the-beauty-ness-in-her ". And when they do not get the attention, they tend to make the boyfriend jealous; by telling the boyfriend some other guys are chasing her. Well, it depends on the boyfriend to react. If the boyfriend cannot offer the attentions (which the other guys would), the girl obviously gonna be sad and the chasers (might be the boyfriend's friend) would take that chance to make the moves. Tapi ini sangat puppy love.
Fact : It is not easy to deal with trust issues when the relationship has been damaged.
I believe in order to succeed in restoring trust, a couple has to have a mutual understanding and an open communication. But yea, sometimes love is not enough to make everything go smoothly, as we continuously fear of being betrayed or fooled around.
And I am definitely agree that sometimes the truth may hurt us, but the honesty means more. Even if things don’t go quite smoothly in the beginning, the honesty will be appreciated later on and the trust will be developed through time.